Saturday, 19 May 2012
We've received our PAR
Hello again, I said I would post about the PAR, so here are my thoughts. Our social worker did not disappoint us. She always asked questions and seemed like she just "got" us really well and was also a very switched on and intuitive person and this certainly comes across on the PAR. I shed quite a few tears when I read it. It's a great way to make you realise how lucky you are, how much support you have and evidence for why your relationship is strong and has lasted. We changed a few minor details, or a couple of bits where we weren't sure it sounded quite as it was meant to on paper, but mostly all 43 pages were accurate and perceptive. For those of you who haven't seen one before it starts with each of your childhood experiences: parenting, education etc. and then moves on to specific sections like religion, how we will cope with a change of routine etc etc. She used lots of quotes from our meetings and also quotes that we had sent ourselves anyway so it felt like a very personal and appropriate document. Our new sofa arrived this week. Amazing how a thing like a sofa can make you emotional but it's a big family sofa which we will all be able to cuddle up on and it's making us feel funny! Our social worker is coming today for us to sign off all the paperwork and then it's panel in just over 3 weeks. Wow. Can you believe it? Really, this bit has been very fast... I have no complaints about the time scale so far! I can't remember what I said in my last post about two children, but it seems like they are hoping we will have two. This is stressful as we have to sort out the second bedroom, but we can't properly do it until we know. I have sated the crazily organised part of my personality by making a list of things to panic buy when we are definitely matched! There's not too much to do but I was "ready" (as I'll ever be!) for one and two seems like it will be wonderful but challenging! I spent last weekend with my lovely friend and her two gorgeous twins. I had a wonderful time playing with them and cuddling them. They are slightly stranger aware and treated me with appropriate suspicion (they are 7 months old) but they sort of got over it and let me have lots of cuddles! My friend is doing so well. I can see that she is pretty pooped but she applies a very organised approach with lots of routine and I think that helps preserve her sanity as well as the babies. At least our two won't be in the same room waking each other up constantly! So all in all it's been a good week. We are both rather emotional but managing! This weekend we haven't done too much. We have just been enjoying the new house which is something we needed to do really. We also went to the cinema...we're trying to do things like that that we won't be able to do in not too long. Or it might be too long! It's still horrible not knowing! I don't know if I'll go back to school in September and that's just so weird! Just have to try not to think about it! Take care, everyone!